"Commentary: Protecting your kids from failure isn't helpful parenting
Encouraging and supporting failure can make your child more resilient, better able to cope and help them grow, says one education expert.
Studies have found that children and adolescents in Australia appear less able to cope than ever before.
The problem is, in our efforts to protect children, we take valuable opportunities for learning away from them.
Failure provides benefits that cannot be gained any other way. Failure is a gift disguised as a bad experience. Failure is not the absence of success, but the experience of failure on the way to success."
When we fail, we experience negative emotions such as disappointment or frustration. When children are protected from these feelings, they may believe they are powerless and have no control over mastery when they do eventually experience failure.
So the answer is not to avoid failure, but to learn how to cope with small failures. These low-level challenges have been called “steeling events”.
Protecting children from these events is more likely to increase their vulnerability than promote 6resilience. When adults remove failure so children do not have to experience it, they become more vulnerable to future experiences of failure."
While this article was written by an Australian n for Australian audiences, it resolutely resonant with Sgp situation!!
Learning fr set back n failure are the BEST if one embraced it positively. A "Now i know what to avoid n mus Big t improve if i were to do it again"?
The people around u can be empathetic n make it easier to transition. Yet nothing beats U WANTING to DO it n then Just DO it!!
Will our parents n educators stick to "Tough love"? I hope so.
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