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Thursday, September 19, 2019

Daily Lessons from Life 18 September 2019 - How to help when help is unwanted?

"Chin Swee Road toddler death: Local MP Lily Neo expresses concern, sadness

While details of the crime will only come to light later in court proceedings, Dr Neo told CNA that she has several unanswered questions.

“I feel sad that such a thing happened. I feel very concerned about why it happened,” she said.

The remains of the two-year-old were found on Sep 10 this year in a flat in Block 52 Chin Swee Road, more than five years after the alleged murder happened.

While Dr Neo has made efforts to investigate the circumstances of the family, she said several social service agencies are active in the block and the surrounding area​​​​​​​. Official support programmes are in place for the elderly, who make up a majority of the Chin Swee area, and for children.

Social service agencies make their rounds in the area, and there are organisations that help on an ad-hoc basis, such as delivering food and cleaning up homes.

However, Dr Neo said that help can only be provided once it is known that assistance is required.

“If they are completely isolated, it can be difficult to help them. If you don’t even get to see them, and they don’t want to see you, how do you go about it?” she asked.

Not everyone opens the door when she and her team do home visits, she said.

“It could be that they are not in, they want their privacy, or they don’t want to be disturbed,” she said.

Dr Sheena Jebal, chief executive of NuLife Care and Counselling Centre, said her staff have had similar experiences.

As part of outreach efforts following the organisation’s move to Chin Swee Road in February this year, Dr Jebal arranged for a team of staff, volunteers and counsellors to knock on doors to help spruce up homes.

They had trouble offering these services in some instances, she said. “Even before they knew why my staff, volunteer or counsellor were there, some of them were not interested,” she said."

This case revealed a few telling things abt public rental housing:

1. people r not open to each other due to their circumstances;

2. need someone to organise get-to-know-your-neighbours OFFICIALLY n regularly. Only through INITIAL FORCED CONTACTS can something happened between the neighbours! Hopefully the chemistry fit n they develop the friendship deeper on their own violation!;

3. i think there is this rule now where the HDB can get "forced entry" if something is deemed very wrong like: hoarder turning home into rubbish dump, "dead rotting smell", etc. that people can inform the authority to investigate any suspicious situation!

No easy solution. Yet, hopefully whenever someone volunteering in these neighbourhood CAN B more vigilant n "nosy" for the good!!??

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